In Pursuit of Happiness… Our Natural Desire to Feather Our Nest

Every spring our North American bird friends spend endless hours finding the perfect fixings for thier new digs. Searching for the best ingredients for solid structure, waterproofing and of course comfort, readies thier new home for thier expected little ones. Well that explains birds, but why do we feel the need to make our homes look like the cover of Architectural Digest?
Is it just that magazines and television expose us to the best spaces that money can buy? Do you take those visions as a challenge or do younfeel deeper about the rooms in your home? Do you feel the need to keep up with the Joneses whether you can afford it or not? There are as many reasons for the “nesting” feeling as there are … well… people. Decorating means different things to different people and to each his own… beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
For the lady late in her pregnancy, her “nesting” instict kicks in with the impending birth of her child. So is our desire to nest a hormonal reaction or natural instinct? Young couples that move into thier first home are so compelled to spend every last cent they have… or more… to make thier new nest the home of thier dreams.
Perhaps your pursuit of a fabulously sexy pad is motivated by your desire to hook-up. Both ladies and gents of single status who are looking for love, very much take the feathering of thier nest seriously. Making one’s self attractive to others at all levels. This activity is not like a web of deception but displays one’s desire to attract someone of quality or at least show your financial ability to keep up with Joneses.
Does your home make a statement about who you are or who you want people to perceive you to be? Do you want to experience a certain feeling as you walk through your front door? Is it that feeling many of us get as the holiday seasons set upon us, certain scents, colours and objects take us back to a warm happy place… most of the time. Make note of how you feel the next time you walk through your home’s entrance. Is it stress or relief that you feel? Can you recognize what it is about your home that ingnites emotions in you? Being able to notice any negative reactions you or your family may have when you enter your abode will direct you to what your next weekend DIY project should be. If you can’t put your finger on the source of your pain, you may need to call for professional help such as an interior designer.
What is your house pride motivation? Some folks feel that cleanliness is most important but let the clutter slide. Others pride themselves with orderliness, but the dust-bunnies are still safe to reproduce under the bed if time runs out in the housekeepers schedule. Then there is the personality of one who conquers both clutter and cleansing; demanding it from others in the home too. Is your desired space an empty box with little embellishment or do you prefer a full house of furniture, decorative objects and things of memories past? Where do you fall into this scale?
Do you let your budget or line of credit guide you in how much you spend on your nest? Or do make due with hand-me-downs and gifts? One may think that feathering your nest may take a great deal of cash. It can be done on less than a dime but it may take just a little more time and a fair amount of elbow grease to achieve. Consignment shops that specialize in household furnishings and accessories are a great source for finding unique and affordable things to fill your home.
There is a statement in design that says “form follows function”… meaning our spaces should be shaped by our activities but usually we have to stuff ourselves into a container we can afford and make the best of it. Depending on where you are in your life, your home may be a 5 bedroom single in the suburbs or a 24th floor bachelor loft in a re-developed downtown neighbourhood. You may feel that finishing your space to suit as many future buyers as possible is a good investment. Perhaps that is true in a short turn-around property, but in a long term living situation furnishing and decorating (as well as renovating) it is best to make choices that will make you happy. Of course, there are others such as family, future family or pets to considered in any nesting decisions you make.
Nesting is more than the pursuit of material possession, creating a living space that functions well and that you enjoy can add to the overall quality of your life. Happy Nesting!!

More reading:
Want to hook-up: http://ca.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-ways-to-impress-a-woman-with-your-home.html
Keeping up with the Joneses and other rules: http://www.viewalongtheway.com/2013/06/6-decorating-rules-to-live-by/

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